Secret to Marriage

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My husband’s niece asked me this week, what is the secret to marriage. And it got me thinking, oh right, how did we last this long?

My husband and I have been married for almost eight years but we’ve been together for sixteen years. And as most couples, we had our fair share of ups and downs. We enjoy the good times and try our best to overcome the challenges in our lives. Me and my husband have different ideals and we often clash. Oftentimes over petty stuff. We get into arguments but never to physical fights.  

Love is essential in a relationship and money is for your life’s stability. But as for marriage, I prefer trust, teamwork and communication.

Trust. For a relationship to work, both parties should trust each other and be trustworthy. We never give each other any reason to lose our trust. We both believe that it starts in ourselves. We socialize with other people but we always keep our boundaries. Faith goes hand in hand with

Teamwork. “It takes two to tango” and as a couple, both of you must share their part in the relationship, may it be in house chores, finances or babysitting. For me, it’s not just the mother’s responsibility to take care of the kids and father’s job to feed the family. If you are both able to work and parent your children, that would be great because the load will be shared and lighter to carry. I think teamwork worked in our favor because we were able to enjoy each other’s company for years before starting a family. We have learned to adjust to each other’s personality, work schedule and personal space. Being able to know you and your partner’s strengths and weaknesses, we are able to delegate the tasks and do our roles well.

Communication. Speak your thoughts and learn to listen. Many relationships suffer because of guessing games. Trying to guess what your partner is thinking will lead you to nowhere. Never assume that just because you have been together for so long, you can read his mind and his body cues and that you got it all correct. Sometimes, if you are unsure, ask nicely. And when you ask, be prepared to listen with openmind and without judgment. Criticisms are okay but never harsh words. Be human and be nice when you talk. Oftentimes, arguments start because of improper tone and words. When both of you are angry, it is better to cool down, before starting a conversation. Talking while either of you are mad can trigger anger because your minds are still clouded and are not thinking straight. 

Being married is never easy. You need to be able to always adapt in order to survive. And unless both of you are willing to adjust, it will be harder to survive.

“A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.”


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“It’s been a long time…”

What have I been up to?

A lot of things have happened since my post last 2019.

I had my second baby December that year. ❤

When the pandemic hit, nobody was prepared. Nobody knows what to do and every aspect of our lives was challenging.

I caught the virus early this year even after getting fully vaxxed. I can say it was a minor case since I was able to recover at home. But still, it was hell. I ached all over my body, I experienced shortness of breath, and I was even hallucinating.

I am planning to get my boosters around end of July.

There are stuffs that have happened but of course I can’t share them.

All I aim for is to get things done and hope to stay strong no matter how tough life gets.

Tomorrow from movie Annie

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Nursery class performance
Playlab Moving Up Day SY 2018-19
March 22, 2019


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It never goes away.

It stays buried in the deepest part of your soul waiting for any opportunity to take over.

No matter how busy you get, it lingers there in your head.

While you listen to music or watch a movie, it’s there.

While working or playing or in the middle of conversation, it’s there.

While washing dishes or doing the laundry, it’s there.

No matter how hard you try to occupy your head, it’s there.

You’re laughter is heard by everyone but they don’t see your soul fading away.

When you feel alone while being surrounded by people who care is never right.

Let it go.

Let it go.

Let it go.

Keep on moving.

Leave it behind.

Run away.

Having one doesn’t make you weak. It actually makes you stronger.

To tame such beast and keep it in a small space in your head is a lot of work.

Let it remind you that you are strong. Stronger than that thing that’s eating you inside.

When the beast is whispering in your head, ignore it.

It will try crawl it’s way out but don’t let your shield down.

Good things around you may feel like false happiness but they are stepping stones to be better.

Hold on to those little happy thoughts even if it’s just a grasp.

Little by little, your soul will heal. It is scarred, but it will heal.

Then one day, someday, it will be good.

It is a waiting game. Be patient.

I am not telling you to be happy.

I am telling you to be patient.

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“The Chaos” by Gerard Nolst Trenité

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Dearest creature in creation,
Study English pronunciation.
I will teach you in my verse
Sounds like corpse, corps, horse, and worse.
I will keep you, Suzy, busy,
Make your head with heat grow dizzy.
Tear in eye, your dress will tear.
So shall I! Oh hear my prayer.
Just compare heart, beard, and heard,
Dies and diet, lord and word,
Sword and sward, retain and Britain.
(Mind the latter, how it’s written.)
Now I surely will not plague you
With such words as plaque and ague.
But be careful how you speak:
Say break and steak, but bleak and streak;
Cloven, oven, how and low,
Script, receipt, show, poem, and toe.
Hear me say, devoid of trickery,
Daughter, laughter, and Terpsichore,
Typhoid, measles, topsails, aisles,
Exiles, similes, and reviles;
Scholar, vicar, and cigar,
Solar, mica, war and far;
One, anemone, Balmoral,
Kitchen, lichen, laundry, laurel;
Gertrude, German, wind and mind,
Scene, Melpomene, mankind.
Billet does not rhyme with ballet,
Bouquet, wallet, mallet, chalet.
Blood and flood are not like food,
Nor is mould like should and would.
Viscous, viscount, load and broad,
Toward, to forward, to reward.
And your pronunciation’s OK
When you correctly say croquet,
Rounded, wounded, grieve and sieve,
Friend and fiend, alive and live.
Ivy, privy, famous; clamour
And enamour rhyme with hammer.
River, rival, tomb, bomb, comb,
Doll and roll and some and home.
Stranger does not rhyme with anger,
Neither does devour with clangour.
Souls but foul, haunt but aunt,
Font, front, wont, want, grand, and grant,
Shoes, goes, does. Now first say finger,
And then singer, ginger, linger,
Real, zeal, mauve, gauze, gouge and gauge,
Marriage, foliage, mirage, and age.
Query does not rhyme with very,
Nor does fury sound like bury.
Dost, lost, post and doth, cloth, loth.
Job, nob, bosom, transom, oath.
Though the differences seem little,
We say actual but victual.
Refer does not rhyme with deafer.
Fe0ffer does, and zephyr, heifer.
Mint, pint, senate and sedate;
Dull, bull, and George ate late.
Scenic, Arabic, Pacific,
Science, conscience, scientific.
Liberty, library, heave and heaven,
Rachel, ache, moustache, eleven.
We say hallowed, but allowed,
People, leopard, towed, but vowed.
Mark the differences, moreover,
Between mover, cover, clover;
Leeches, breeches, wise, precise,
Chalice, but police and lice;
Camel, constable, unstable,
Principle, disciple, label.
Petal, panel, and canal,
Wait, surprise, plait, promise, pal.
Worm and storm, chaise, chaos, chair,
Senator, spectator, mayor.
Tour, but our and succour, four.
Gas, alas, and Arkansas.
Sea, idea, Korea, area,
Psalm, Maria, but malaria.
Youth, south, southern, cleanse and clean.
Doctrine, turpentine, marine.
Compare alien with Italian,
Dandelion and battalion.
Sally with ally, yea, ye,
Eye, I, ay, aye, whey, and key.
Say aver, but ever, fever,
Neither, leisure, skein, deceiver.
Heron, granary, canary.
Crevice and device and aerie.
Face, but preface, not efface.
Phlegm, phlegmatic, ass, glass, bass.
Large, but target, gin, give, verging,
Ought, out, joust and scour, scourging.
Ear, but earn and wear and tear
Do not rhyme with here but ere.
Seven is right, but so is even,
Hyphen, roughen, nephew Stephen,
Monkey, donkey, Turk and jerk,
Ask, grasp, wasp, and cork and work.
Pronunciation (think of Psyche!)
Is a paling stout and spikey?
Won’t it make you lose your wits,
Writing groats and saying grits?
It’s a dark abyss or tunnel:
Strewn with stones, stowed, solace, gunwale,
Islington and Isle of Wight,
Housewife, verdict and indict.
Finally, which rhymes with enough,
Though, through, plough, or dough, or cough?
Hiccough has the sound of cup.
My advice is to give up!!!

Fall 2015 TV Series

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Yey! The long wait is over. Great TV series are back and new awesome shows premiere.

Here is a daily guide of the shows I would watch for this season.


Once Upon A Time


The Walking Dead



Life in Pieces



The Flash

Scream Queens



Code Black


The Blacklist

How to Get Away with Murder

Happy watching! *cheers* 🙂


Niah’s Typical Morning

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This is how our usual morning goes…

1. The Wake Up Call


2. Those wonderful adventure stories


3. Time to go explore


4. Playtime!


5. Milk Please 🙂


6. Rock-a-bye baby


Trolling #FacebookDown Twitter Hashtag

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While Facebook is down, netizens flock to Twitter.

Here are some of the tweets I find funny.

Welcoming 2015

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Happy New Year!

Been awhile since I’ve written a blog. It has been a year actually.

2014 has been a roller coaster ride so I preferred not to write anything last year.

But even if it was hard, I am still grateful to all the blessings that have been showered upon me.

Cheers to another blessed year ahead!